Bridging The Gaps Ministry
Held Secure
A 6 Week Christian Workbook for Anxious Attachment, Overthinking, Fear of Abandonment, and Learning to Trust God in Relationship
Held Secure is a 6-week workbook for women who love God but still struggle with overthinking, needing reassurance and the fear of being left in their relationships. It helps you slow down your responses and bring your thoughts back to truth. The book says it plainly: it’s “not here to shame you,” and it’s “not here to label you.”
It’s written for personal use, so you work through it on your own, one day at a time.
Paperback $16.99 on Amazon.
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- You read into a slow reply, a change in tone or a little distance
- You reach out again, explain again or go back, even when you know you should pause
- You replay conversations and try to figure out what changed
- You love God, but you still struggle with fear and overthinking in your relationships
What’s inside
- Six weeks of teaching, each built on an anchor verse, with Scripture printed in the American Standard Version
- Four written questions and a practice to carry into each week
- Four daily sections each week that move from noticing what set you off, to truth, to a pause and a short prayer
- A “Before You React” moment in every daily section, for the times you feel the urge to respond quickly
- A journaling page for every daily section and a weekly check-in
- An opening prayer and a prayer of thanks every week
148 pages, 8 x 10 paperback.
Week by week
- Week 1: You Are Not Your Fear (Ephesians 1:4). Fear-based identity and assuming the worst.
- Week 2: God Does Not Leave (Hebrews 13:5). The fear of being left.
- Week 3: You Don’t Have to Chase Love (Romans 8:39). Over-explaining and feeling like you have to prove your worth.
- Week 4: Quieting the Overthinking Mind (Isaiah 26:3). Replaying conversations and reading meaning into silence.
- Week 5: Letting Go of Control (Proverbs 3:5). Trying to hold everything together.
- Week 6: Secure in Christ (Colossians 2:7). Looking back on how you’ve grown.
How to go through it
You don’t have to rush. The book says, “You can take this one day at a time. You can pause and come back when needed.” Some prompts repeat on purpose, because growth often comes through consistency.
A note about counseling
Held Secure is written for spiritual growth and encouragement. It isn’t a substitute for professional counseling, therapy, or medical or mental health advice. If what you’re carrying feels like too much to hold on your own, please reach out for help. You’ll find places to start on our Get Support page.
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About the author
Held Secure is written and published by Bridging The Gaps Ministry Inc.
Questions about Held Secure
Who is Held Secure for?
Women who love God but still find themselves struggling with fear and overthinking in their relationships. As the book puts it, “especially when you love God, but still find yourself struggling in these areas.”
What kind of relationships does it speak to?
The book doesn’t name one kind. It speaks to close relationships in general, and it spends real time on the pull to go back to someone or something you already know isn’t right.
What does the Bible say about the fear of being abandoned?
Week 2 is built on Hebrews 13:5, where God promises He won’t fail you or forsake you. That week also spends time in Deuteronomy 31:6 and Isaiah 41:10.
Should I use a workbook or see a counselor?
Held Secure isn’t a substitute for professional counseling or therapy. If you need that kind of help, please reach out for it.
Can I use Held Secure with a group?
No. Held Secure is written for personal use only. It’s meant to be worked through on your own, at your own pace.
Is there a Kindle version?
Not yet. It’s in paperback, sized 8 x 10 so there’s room to write.
What if I haven’t put my faith in Jesus?
The back of the book includes an invitation to place your faith in Jesus Christ, with a simple prayer.